That sounds....huge. I know many working couples where one would probably take that in a heartbeat. You lose some money, but gain more family time and sanity. Having Friday to finish chores and being able to enjoy the weekend unstressed is huge, not to mention clocking out early each day to be able to pick up your kid and not have to get back to work or whatever.
I kind of doubt this will be adopted practically in Japan. The old people get time off and leave work early in Japan by privilege and the young break themselves and any rule they need to permit it. The young would even lie about taking time off to make the boss look good, even taking less pay to sell the lie. Who can have kids when you already have to change everyone's diaper.
That was largely true 10 to 20 years ago and is still true in some pockets of society.

The younger have been giving the middle finger to these kind of companies for a while now. Either literally, by proxy, or going elsewhere and/or quit the whole corporate culture altogether and doing "shit" jobs with more flexibility instead (they feel screwed either way, at least they'll do it on their own term)

This 4 days week measure has a realistic chance IMHO, otherwise these gov job will stay the bottom of the barrel in the new generation's perception.

I have a friend, Mai (let's say), who's from Japan (and is as terrified as I am at the country's work culture). She texted her high school friend who's still there and working in an office, day-in and day-out, and Mai asked her if she's hanging out or talking to any of her old friends. The friend said "You're my friend Mai :) I only talk with you".

She only sends her a text on Christmas and her birthday, that's the extent of their yearly interaction!

I also anecdotaly know a number of people in that bucket. I don't know for your friend, but for many it comes down to not caring that much about having "friends".

They will prioritize their hobbies over basically anything, including socialization (they can still socialize inside their hobby group, but they might not be "friends" in the traditional way)

I'd see it as the same line of thinking as DINK, except with a single income and no fucks given about romantic relationships. Of course the situation could be different if they were super affluent, but as they have to prioritize they choose what makes them happy regardless of social norms.

Fair enough, I like having friends but have a hard time figuring out when to fit them into my schedule.

In this case, I know my friend's friend talked about constant overtime and not having a life outside of the office.

I sent Mai this video of the crazy day-in-the-life of a salaryman in Japan [1], and we both felt it was crazy, but she said "I actually think he likes it". Some people are cut out for overtime every day but I know I'd go crazy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tmjXp_AYg0

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Unrelated, but I (sort of) wish English had an obviative case. It's hard to give a story about a friend and their friend of the same gender in English without ambiguity, hence why I gave [person 1] a name.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obviative

Good to know about the obviative case, that there's a name for these type of things.

When writing docs in code recently, it struck me as a little odd that pronouns can be used as a shorthand when referring to a singular and a plural, but can't be if they have the same plurality.

E.g. "When the name and errors exist, and it is non-empty and they are capitalized, ..."

Speaking of Japanese, I learned from that friend that they don't use 2nd or 3rd person pronouns that much at all, preferring to repeat the person's name. For third person it's strange to my ears, but it was very surprising to hear my name repeated in second person!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_pronouns

Yes. 2nd and 3rd pronouns tend to be harder to use in social contexts.

You usually convey a bunch of info and intent when referring to someone (how close you're to that person and their social position relative to you), and pronouns don't easily cover that range. It can be done but requires more finesse.

That's perhaps why pronouns are so tainted (You=anata has become the most stereotypical way to call one's husband)

The better choice is usually to omit the subject and just imply who you're talking about. Using their name is the second best alternative.

Interestingly, a big company actually did an experiment in Japan itself: https://www.npr.org/2019/11/04/776163853/microsoft-japan-say...
I worked for this company and they are a sponsor of NPR, but thanks for the link? Was the study conducted and audited by 3rd parties? I had to print from outside the office during PTO sometimes also.
Fascinating. Is the loyalty reciprocated?
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If the subordinates have to lie about taking time off, and intentionally accept lower pay for the benefit of their superiors - then no, it's definitely not reciprocated. I'd argue the subordinates are straight up being abused in this case.
I'm not saying you are wrong here, but I think it is important to ground all of these old:young dynamics in culture. 'Subordinate', to me, is a very western lens and looks past the crucial point that the Japanese view power structures with far more optimism than we do.

Japan clearly has its own problems, but honour and duty play a significant part in their culture and, admirably, contributes to the creation of a high-trust society.

Arguably, the Japanese view a society that takes care of the elderly with respect as a benefit to themselves. In the other hand, it is a characteristic of Western society to see every moment as an opportunity to make immediate profits, even at the expense of their own future.
In this case, it's taking care of the elderly to the huge detriment of the young. And when you do that, you kinda lose the future.
Exactly. What sane grandparent would want to live at the cost of cannibalizing their grandchildren? What the sandwich generation received as kids, they need to pay that forward, not back.

For one, I don't want a long life. I want to live as long as I'm not a burden. Don't want to burn down in my final years all that I will have built up for my kids and their kids.

Now, they say that anime is not real life in Japan, and it's true; however it absolutely reflects (I dare say: indoctrinates viewers with) cultural elements of Japan. And this "fuck up your kids' lives so you can take care of your parents" is so characteristic. A good example (of this terrible phenomenon) is in Lovely Complex, where Nobu-chan effectively needs to abandon her sweetheart Nakao-kun, just so she can care for her grandmother, who's about to move to Hokkaido. The most heart-wrenching part is where Nakao and Nobu's grandma sit at the dining table, and Nakao is guilt-tripped into actively encouraging Nobu's grandma to travel to Hokkaido and to rob him of his beloved Nobu. Fuck all that, seriously.

I agree with you, wholeheartedly. Children should not be guilted into taking care of their elders.

My parents are immigrants from Southeast Asia and the culture is similar, but it's children taking care of their parents (in all facets, including financially). People ask me why I'm not rich despite making a Silicon Valley salary without living in Silicon Valley... Well, I pay two rents (mine and my parents'). Yes, I know they can move in with me to save money, yes I could just say no and leave them in the lurch, yes I could do xyz, but this is the reality.

I do have the sense of duty towards them, because they took care of me and my siblings, and we wanted for nothing, despite not being an affluent family. But the tradition stops with me. I personally would never make my kids take care of me like that, and I would rather be euthanized early than have my family's last memories of me being bedridden, changing my bed pan, etc. And I'm taking all measures necessary to ensure that I leave my family a financial legacy (life insurance, retirement accounts, brokerage accounts, etc).

You forget that every young person will become old later (if alive). That's what they consider when looking at the future.
Old people have had a lifetime of experience and opportunity to build themselves up for old age. Young people have had nothing, and without that opportunity, they'll be reduced to (metaphorically) cannibalising the next generation.
What a simple minded and reductionist way of thinking...
"A society grows great when the old plant trees in whose shade they shall never sit."
Hmm I'm sure I would view that kind of social pressure as a straightjacket and I would have a very fringey and mediocre life in such a society.

I'm just someone who is different and western civilization applauds individualism to some extent (except highly religious communities, army, etc).

For people like me such societies are pretty cruel.

The concept of unconditional love is unknown to many cultures.

In the Netherlands children are a selfless act they are not a pension fund for their parents.

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I don't think reciprocation can be analyzed in a dynamic setting like that.

Another version of this is, what happens if the younger generation doesn't take the deal -- do they get fired? Keeping them on is a form of reciprocation, even if bleak.

Likewise, is there an implicit deal where when the young get old, they get to work less? If so, it is eventually reciprocated.

I do think it is not reciprocated instantaneously.

What you describe as reciprocation is actually transgenerational exploitation. Be forcefully taken-from when you are young, and then forcefully take (from the young) when you are old.

It should be unidirectional giving. Give to your children, and save for yourself. Retire to an assisted living facility, don't become a burden. Hope to die as soon as you become a burden. If you decide to die, because you are done living, I firmly believe that you can die.

Their view is a product of hard times. Your view is a product of good times. Theirs is the observation that people will be more committed to work hard to make things better, if they can hope to eventually rest and partake in some of the improvements. Yours is basically "fuck off, YOLO and people should just have fun". Both views have some good points behind them, but then yours is unsustainable over more than a generation or two, while GP's view is the one that sustains and enables yours.

Complicating things is the fact that for the fist 10+ years, children are extreme burden, so the "transgenerational exploitation" is actually done by the younger generation, even if they didn't mean it. That's the cost of bringing them into existence. It's not fair for parents to keep their children forever in their debt, but let's not pretend we don't owe anything to our parents and their generation either.

Parents chose to have children, how many (i.e. how much their attention is divided), how they'll raise them (with near absolute authority), and pick 50% of the kids' genes (via the other parent). Children chose nothing. They owe nothing.

It's selfish to demand your children be personally responsible for you.

Making young people miserable under the crushing weight of caring for themselves and their irresponsible elders won't inspire them to produce and share grandkids.

Consider that in Japan, refusal care for the elders would be considered an act of irresponsibility.

You are right that there should be no crushing weight inflicted. Not all of Japanese worklife has the exploitative nature described upthread. And indeed, seems to be decreasing significantly from the 1980s. For instance, the following situation is no longer likely:

"A boss is working late, so the employees under the boss keep working without being requested to. If the boss disagrees with their decision to stay, then instead of directly telling them they may leave (because they may feel obligated politely refuse as long as the boss is still working), the boss will 'go home' by walking around the block. This gives the employees time to leave, before the boss returns to continue working late."

Consider that in Japan, doing what is best for a group of which you are part is more important than self-interest. There is some modern trend to a little more individualism, in part as reaction to some past and current excesses, and somewhat due to influences of foreign cultures. In general, it seems to be trending toward balance while still keeping a lot of importance of your in-group.

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It’s basically the same model as social security is supposed to be. It’s reciprocated societally by you putting in lots when you’re young and then you get the benefits when you’re old.
Yes, but it matters how much it intrudes on your personal life.

Paying social security (and saving for retirement) when you are young, and getting (some) coverage when you are old, is one thing. It's "only" money.

Having your time, availability, emotional capacity, mental health sucked dry by the elderly in your own family is an entirely different thing. Raising small children is an extreme challenge that requires all your resources; young and middle-aged Japanese are entirely reasonable not to start families.

I recommend reading this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sandwich_generation#Other_chal...

> Raising small children is an extreme challenge that requires all your resources

Indeed, and in the past, this would've been offset by everyone around the parents - the old, the young, the other families and the childless aunts and uncles - all chiming in to share the burden. Social security & retiremenet is basically an attempt to give a substitute for that, for the village, but things are getting more and more pathological with each generation.

Someone close to me told me they chose to have two kids because they didn't want the burden and responsibility of caring for their parents to fall solely onto one child.
It still might, eventually. One kid will live too far away, the other will have family with small children, etc. and the burden will end up falling on the one who's closest and/or doesn't have kids of their own.
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That's tremendously reductionistic.
Not really. Societies all over structure taking care of old retired people in different ways.

They all generally depend on the model of there being population growth though in order to keep the burden on the younger generations tolerable.

“A society grows great when the old plant trees in whose shade they know they shall never sit”
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Not sure about rest of the world, but here in Switzerland mothers often take Wednesdays off - first years of school its not on Wednesdays, and then it starts with just mornings. Wife has it and she repeatedly claimed that she will never go back to 5 days workweek.

Most employers, be it private or state ones have 0 issues with this setup. 20% less, maybe 15% net income less ain't that huge of a deal - if it is, something ain't right in your finances anyway. What is gained is very well worth it, time with parents is crucial in many ways for small kids and if that window is missed you can't make it up later. Catching up with stuff like bureaucracy which is unavailable during weekends is possible only during such time.

Its true that having kids fundamentally changed my view on wealth and how much should I pursue higher paychecks, life is darn short anyway and double that with kids. I am switching to 90% contract from 1.1.2025 - working usual 5 days a week but having altogether 48.5 MDs of paid vacation (90% of 25MDs I had on 100% + 0.5 MD per each week in year, our HR recipe). It feels like being a teacher but on corporate paycheck (and work intensity). Even with 4 mortgages (for 2 properties) and no family to help financially if we hit hardships, this was a nobrainer. Other aspect would be retiring in 60 (max 61), but that's too far down the line to care much about now.

I am looking very much into spending that time on family and myself. One needs to be happy or at least content with its own life to make others happy too, and thats not achievable easily in rat races. For such benefits alone I don't care about higher paychecks, money only can get you so far in life.

> 20% less, maybe 15% net income less ain't that huge of a deal - if it is, something ain't right in your finances anyway

or else, something maybe horribly broken in your country.

I'm happy for you, that you can easily dismiss 15% net income. Try that in Hungary, where generally two full time jobs together are nearly insufficient just to stay afloat.

> One needs to be happy or at least content with its own life to make others happy too, and thats not achievable easily in rat races

Very true, which is why mental health issues are rampant in the Eastern Bloc.

Doesn't help that the average attitude of people here of mental health is that it doesn't exist.

My family used to believe, adn they still do, that the only reason you'd go to psychiatrist is because you're "weird" and that only crazies who belong in mental hospital go there...

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Prior to retirement, I cut back to 32 hrs/week at 80% pay (well, closer to 85% because I kept my full health). I backfilled the pay cut by beginning a small 401k withdrawl.

All of a sudden, every Thursday evening felt like the start of vacation!

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It sort of happened with me by default. Probably didn't take as much advantage as I should. And "retirement" is much less retirement than it could be.
The issue is in corporate jobs (including tech) Friday is a very relaxed day. If you are working a shorter week than everyone else, you end up doing the same amount of work in less time for less money.
This and...

I remember when in France, the work week went from 39 to 35, that was 35h work week paid 39 - no pay cuts.

Now I get that the economy/job market isn't like it was then, what with all the layoffs to protect shareholder from growth dropping from +9% to only +5% (arbitrary example from one company).

But I am baffled at how quickly employees seem to have internalized the idea that reduced hours require reduced pay before even getting a chance for any negotiations. With all the value that's being produced, we're just accepting that it continue to be unfairly distributed, and that workers see no benefit (or barely) from the increases in productivity.

I'm sorry, if a pay cut is required, or condensed hours are required, it's no social progress, just lip service at best to exploit people more under the guise of flexibility.

I'd prefer having fridays officially off instead of being stuck at my pc not doing much work. If I'm already not working most fridays, why is it such a big deal to just make it official, get paid the same and not have to warm a seat poitnlessly?

Because someone right behind you will happily take that deal for 32 hours of work for 38 hours of pay. And someone behind them will do it for 35. And someone behind them will…

Until employers run out of qualified someones willing to work for less, they don’t have much long-term incentive to pay you 25% more than someone else is willing to take for the same job.

Yeah, good point. I work in games, there's always an army of youngsters willing to put up with anything to break into the industry. I shouldn't be surprised...

And I know only all too well employers will continue even at the point of hiring unqualified someones willing to work for less...

But I'm wondering if there is more at play. Like is the web so full of HR BS that people don't know better? Is the economy really that bad or is it a self fulfilling prophecy because corporate scare tactics work?

And don't get me started on LLMs confidently repeating the same one sided HR BS when you ask anything about work conditions, and then claiming it intends to provide a comprehensive list of unbiased potential solutions to try, conveniently leaving out the last one which should be if all else fails start sending resumes...

Anyway, I'm seeing more unions spin up and more strikes this year, so I guess that gives me a bit of hope at least.

Agreed, the Friday is essentially the day with the highest pay:effort ratio. It's a 20% salary for relatively little effort.

And given a ratio of 80% spending and 20% saving, that Friday can be the difference between living paycheck-to-paycheck and early retirement.

Essentially if you make 5k a month, spend 4k and invest 1k at an 8% ROI from age 25, you'll have:

180k, 570k and 1400k at age 35, 45 and 55 respectively. If you live off of 4% of that, you'll have a passive income of $0.6k, $1.9k and $4.6k respectively at the same ages.

In other words working that relaxed Friday from age 25 and investing the proceeds, will get you to the point that you passively earn the same as you did working Monday through Thursday by age 52 or so, without working again. And that's true for any income, at those same ratios.

For many tech jobs the salaries are so high that you can feasibly get to early retirement in your 30s.

There's a lot to be said about the power of a 3-day weekend though. It's not just that you get an extra day of weekend, you also lose a day of work. Expressed as a ratio, is when it clicked for me: You go from 5:2 to 4:3, or in other words: 2.5 days of work for every 1 day of leisure -> 1.3 days of work for every 1 day of leisure. It's approximately twice as good a ratio. And you really feel it, you feel rested and refreshed.

I'm still doing 5d a week. For me the holy grail is to find a company that does 36h contracts with fulltime pay, where you have a 4 day week every other week. All the benefits of full pay, the occasional relaxed friday, but also two long weekends each month allowing trips, hobbies, projects, rest etc.

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My experience, especially post-COVID, is that meetings on Friday are discouraged and nobody blinks at noon departures. Etc. Not quite a four-day work week but came pretty close for a lot of folks.
I did this a few years ago at a company I was a partner in. We had a busy season where folks did overtime. The expectation for salaried employees was a 4-day, 35 hour week, but during that 3-4 week period, it may surge more.

35 hour weeks used to be pretty common in a lot of businesses before the overtime rules were watered down.

Yep, completely agree. After having our kid both me and my wife work 80% so we have one extra day at home. Huge.
I worked out a 9hr/4 days week with my current company, I get more work done in those 36 hours than I did in the 40 hours before because I’m more relaxed after a long weekend and considerably happier
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> You lose some money, but gain more family time and sanity. Having Friday to finish chores and being able to enjoy the weekend unstressed is huge

during my last job search i was thinking exactly the same. id' hapily give up the usual 10-15% pay rise i look for when hopping from one job to another, maybe even consider giving up a 5-15% in order to get a 4-days work week.

I'm not rich by any means, but right now in my life "more money" don't appeal to me that much but more free time certainly does.

A long time ago when I was an intern at a defense contractor my boss was a woman who had worked her whole career 30 hours a week and was very happy about it, kept it up even when her kids were graduating high school.

I also enjoyed the 9/80 schedule there, nominally 9 hour days with a little flexibility with every other Friday off for everyone.

Too many people in the US are living paycheck to paycheck on hourly wages, many with two people in the household working full-time. This is becoming normal. A 4-day workweek will hurt them.
not if they get to work 4 days and get paid 5
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I took that option 4 years ago and wouldn't go back now. It's not worth the increase in money vs the life improvement.
That's only because you have enough money.

There's plenty of people who are still financially short after a 40h job.

I feel like it's been a long time fretting over falling birth rates and this is the first time I've seen anyone float the idea that making life better for people might make them a bit more inclined to make more people.
It's actually that life is too good for childless people, especially when they're wealthier. Take a DINK couple with high paying jobs, say an engineer and an attorney. Without kids they can have a nice house or condo, regularly take great vacations, and still be saving enough to have the option of retiring in their 40s or 50s. But with kids, that mostly goes out the window. The societal expectation is that you should spend basically all your disposable time and income on your children, which means expensive daycare, travel sports (gotta start working on the college applications in grade school), and private schools (or "good" "public" schools gated by living in a super-expensive area). And even if you can avoid all that, colleges are very good at figuring out how much money you have and declaring that to be the tuition.

As a high-earning childless person myself, I'll freely acknowledge that I should have been paying significantly higher taxes in order to benefit my counterparts who did have kids. Although it would be a challenge to do that redistribution in a way that doesn't just get captured by daycare and college.

I enjoyed the DINK life for some time but eventually we decided to start a family and my only regret in life is we didn't start it sooner and have more kids. In the end all the fancy restaurants, nights out, fancy vacations with first class airfare, etc were nice in some ways but pretty vapid and unimportant when looking back. I won't value those years very much compared to the years with children in the house. The energy kids bring into a home and the meaningfulness of their existence is just incomparable in my experience.

But I get it, and the idea of kids was scary at one time, but it turns out they're pretty easy all things considered. Lots of talk of "sacrifice" between friends back then but as it turns out you're trading something of little value for something of immense value. But to each their own!

Just to provide a counter point you don't hear. I have two kids and very much wish I didn't. I love my kids. I sacrifice for them. There are many moments of great joy. However, I don't really have a life any more. I would rather spend my time traveling, visiting friends, playing music. I would rather have more money. I would rather be healthier. I would rather have time for my hobbies. Being a good parent is a lot and nearly all consuming. I feel like a lot of people feel like I do but are too decent to say it out loud.
I used to think this is where I am heading, until reading “Hunt, Gather, Parent”, and realizing that being a good parent does not mean my existence as an individual needs to stop. Me and my kids can co-exist. I just need to let go of controlling their lives.
I don't know if you're already aware of it, but there's a subreddit called /r/regretfulparents that is basically a public support group for people who feel similarly to you. You might find some comfort there.
You are not alone, and I would encourage you to ignore anyone who says you are a bad person for regretting a one way door many default to. I had kids, but I wouldn't do it again knowing what I know now. If these ideas are not discussed, younger cohorts don't have more information to potentially make different decisions and lead potentially better lives (depending on what they're optimizing for).

https://www.axios.com/2024/07/25/adults-no-children-why-pew-... ("64% of young women say they just don't want children, compared to 50% of men.")

You're just using your kids as an excuse for your own short comings. People do done all those things you listed while having more than two kids. Seriously, blaming your health problems on your children?
I know this is a week old post so there will likely not be any follow up but I have several friends that seem to have it all

They have 2 or 3 kids. They love their kids and love spending time with them. Yet, they still have time for hobbies and side projects. I don't know how they do it

1 friend, 2 kids (8-12), FAANG job, 2nd company on the side with a partner, plays horror games and writes about them.

1 friend, 2 kids (7-11), FANNG job, plays video games with this brother remotely, takes his kids out often and they hang out with this friends (we all love the kids). He's also the cook in the house and has people over often. Goes snowboarding in the window.

1 friend, 3 kids (6-8-10), plays videos games (hobby 1), plays guitar (hobby 2), does photograph (hobby 3), see his picts on facebook all the time of the latest thing he's doing

1 friend, 3 kids (8, 10, 12), makes video games for a job and makes his own at home for hobby. One of this kids is also into making video games which they share.

1 friend, 2 kids, tech job, loves VR, plays VR with kids, writes tech tutorials for blogs as hobby.

I'm not saying "you can do it too", I'm just saying I see example of people that somehow *seem* like they're enjoying visiting friends, playing music, having time for hobbies, and they have kids

Would love to know if they just lucked out. If there's specific things they do. Or if it's just an attitude. Or something else.

I sincerely hope your kids will never read this.

They will never forget.

that's sad (I don't mean that in a mean way)

yeah, there are times when I've felt like that, but they're pretty fleeting

at what age did you start a family? I think one of the reasons people should start a family a bit later (early thirties maybe) is so that they have the opportunity to experience/enjoy those things without kids (and not have to wait until the kids are all grown up and then they're in their 50s and it's just not the same as the stuff you can do in your 20s).

First and 35 and second at 37.
I have the sentiment. would have loved to have kids earlier, but I also was not in the position at an earlier age, relationship wise. Growing up in Germany, having kids in your 20s was almost frowned upon. what a terrible societal development!
I think that any loving, financial well couple would discover the same, but all I hear from younger people is excuses as to why kids are a burden. It drives me a bit crazy.
Well because to young people kids are a burden. I think that's the easiest way to put it. You're not really established in your careers, stability isn't something you can manufacture for yourself yet, you don't have that much disposable income all things considered, a lot of folks' relationships haven't matured into something stable enough to effectively parent, and you still have a persistent drive to do stuff and build or grow your adult friendships.

My friends who are parents are very much trapped at home, it's actually great for me because if I'm bored I know they're not doing anything are are starving for social contact with another adult. It's hard for parents to not inadvertently isolate themselves.

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Some disincentives to have kids, if you grew up in the 21st century:

- The cost (financial, time, stress/health) is incredibly high. When cost of living as one person increases somewhere between notably and substantially faster than wages, it’s hard to justify paying for another person while likely also taking an income cut. You end up with entire classes of people whose careers will struggle to pay for their own life, let alone that of a kid. This is playing out in real time - I personally know people who commute 30-45 minutes by car to make $23/hour (in Canada, in a moderately high CoL city - that’s $16USD). When I was in university, some of my classmates who worked at the Starbucks near campus had coworkers (there were at least two instances of this that I know of) in their 40s with kids who commuted over an hour to make however much money Starbucks managers make, and one had a second job on weekends. It’s not hard to look at that and think, “how is that something you’d want to do to yourself?” - The feeling (perceived or real) that the world is becoming a worse place. 24 hour news and social media don’t help, with either the perception or the actual situation. Why would I want to raise a kid who could be a victim of one of the weekly school shootings? Or who’s going to be left dealing with an even harder life financially/etc? Or who’s going to resent older generations for selfishly wasting the earth’s resources?

It’s generally quite easy when you work in tech with a partner who works in tech to just assume that having kids is an easy choice (I work with people who are like that, who apparently only see the world through rose-tinted glasses, and are shocked someone could even possibly not want to pop out as many babies as possible). But when you look at the level of struggle a significant portion of the population endures, as they become generally more educated and more capable of critical thinking over time, it’s pretty clear why large swaths of people will start thinking “maybe we shouldn’t have kids just for the sake of having kids, especially if we don’t actually want to.”

That’s ignoring of course the general overpopulation and lack of sustainability of the western lifestyle (and the associated impact of having a kid on climate change - pretty much the single worst thing you could do, if you can about that at all). People who are tuned in to those sorts of issues are also more likely to not want kids, either because they don’t want to contribute to the problem, or raise kids who will have to deal with the fallout.

If you’re driven crazy by people having a different viewpoint from your own, you may want to consider reflecting on why you are so deeply entrenched in your beliefs. It is rarely productive.

The government does already give significant subsidies to parents. Direct tax credits and public schooling (aka free childcare) are two big ones. I’m not arguing that parents come out ahead economically or that the subsidies are bad (many argue they should be higher). Just pointing it out, if it helps with the guilt about your taxes.

If we want to get all utilitarian about it, these things might be the most important:

1) Identifying the kids with the highest potential to contribute the most to society, and giving whatever support it takes.

2) Identifying which kids and parents are the most needy, who will benefit the most from support that enables them to have a good life. It’s probably not the average family in a developed country.

If there’s someone who wants to raise my taxes to pay for that stuff, I’ll vote for them.

It was actually just last month that I saw one of these falling birthrate articles actually acknowledge that many people just don't want kids, it was in the NY Times too

I'm glad we are finally getting representation on that instead of all these social science studies contorting themselves to come to a child-aspiring default that couples are somehow failing to reach

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/11/well/family/grandparent-g...

Even people who do want kids frequently don't want many of them. Even back in the old days, a lot of people didn't have kids; not everyone actually got married. But people who did get married had lots more kids, so they more than made up for all the people who didn't. (Don't forget, women frequently died in childbirth.) They didn't have reliable birth control, so women didn't have much choice about how many kids they'd have.

These days, people can choose, and many women are happy to stop after 1 or 2 kids. Going through childbirth is, by many accounts, very difficult and not that much fun. All the pro-natalists (generally men) seem to completely dismiss actual women's feelings on this matter for some reason.

Anyway, when you have a society where a bunch of people aren't having kids, and the ones who are are only having 1-2, sometimes 3, the overall average is going to be well under 2, which isn't enough to maintain the population level.

As I've said many times before in these discussions online, societies need to come up with a new model, because obviously the old one isn't working, and it isn't going to come back.

I agree with this as the main factor (over cost) for the falling birth rate. The opportunity cost of having children has never been higher: you give up leisure, hobbies, rest, social life, and income. Whether or not children is worth this cost is a personal thing, but it seems kinda obvious that as the cost increases, fewer will pay it.
> The opportunity cost of having children has never been higher: you give up leisure, hobbies, rest, social life, and income.

Those things are given up because parenting-time is up 20-fold from a few generations ago.

From the 1960s back, kids needed parents a few hours a week.

But we reduced kids' roaming area from many sq mi to just their own property. At the same time, we instituted 24/7 adulting. Most of those hours are filled by parents.

Kids have permanently lost daily hours of peer-driven growth - the ones where complex social interactions occurred naturally. Parents are now left with trying to construct artificial environments (leagues, programs) where maybe some of that can occur.

Those efforts eat time and resources. And they're a poor substitute for the vital environments that kids once had for free.

I spent 20x the time parenting that my mom did. For all of that, my kids had little-to-none of my growth opportunities.

I think it's a mistake to project changes in US society onto that in Japan. Kids there are still largely free range.
Yeah, also in Northern Europe. Here in Estonia kids as young as 5 years old even go to kindergarten on their own. They take a bus and are just fine. Seems to me the helicopter parenting is mostly a thing in the U.S.
Because in the US parents can get arrested if their children go out alone. It's a failure on their laws.

And of their infrastructure where everyone wants to have their own suburban kingdom with large back yard, swimming pool, garage for two SUVs and workshop.

Americans don't like living in small apartments like Europeans and Asians so this is what they get.

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I grew up in the US with parents that had a suburban kingdom, large back yard, swimming pool, garage for three SUVs, and workshop: I walked to, waited for, and rode the bus to kindergarten.

"This is what they get" is false causation, these things have been present for decades. Helicopter parenting, liability for walking around alone, special snowflake treatment are all newly-introduced ideas.

You must be quite young if you had SUVs when you were growing up. They didn't become popular until the late 1990s. They basically didn't exist at all in the 1980s or before; people had station wagons back then.
We did have Suburbans, Broncos and a Ram thing that was closed in. Not a ton of them but they were out there.
The shift from roaming to restriction took place over generations and occurred unevenly.

A few generations ago, the trend was that US kids had a broad range of appealing places to roam and were generally free to do so.

Presently the US trend is that kids have few if any appealing places to go. And should they roam anyway, they and their parents risk legal (and increasingly permanent) consequences.

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Very true. I see little kids by themselves frequently, on the subways, on their bicycles, etc. It reminds me of when I was growing up in the US decades ago, before helicopter parenting became mandated by law there.
I let my kids roam free here in the US (Columbia, MD), but the reality is that they don't want to because there are no other kids outside to play with.
> I let my kids roam free here in the US (Columbia, MD), but the reality is that they don't want to because there are no other kids outside to play with.

I suspect there are no other kids outside because there are few/no desirable places for kids to congregate - places that are safe from moving cars, enforced property laws and adults with poor judgment.

My neighborhood (Bryant Woods in Columbia, MD) is honestly perfect in this regard. It's filled with walking trails and playgrounds. Lots of green space.

The roads are also twisty & turny. They're difficult to drive fast on.

I entirely agree. And when you lather on the tidal wave of endless "entertainment" and options available to most people they end up framing everything in their minds as "having fun" vs "having kids". I also know many women who say they don't want to "do that to their bodies" so ... where is this all going.

And honestly I agree with the "if you are single you should pay more taxes" as a motivator to either get you to have your own kids or to simply ease the burden of those who are actually making humanity move forward but as a parent I am a bit biased here. It should be a significant amount.

There are already taxes subsidies for couples and children - that's plenty enough incentive for wealthy families that can support kids. Families that cannot afford to feed or house children should in no way be penalized for refusing to start a family in their present situation.
The reality is the public pensions and healthcare implode without much higher taxes or much higher birth rates. Like the Italian president told his people a few years, if we want things to stay the same, things are going to have to change.
Things aren't going to change. America just let private wealth run rampant over everything that matters and now wants to usher in an administration that (supposedly) wouldn't touch your civil liberties with a 50 foot pole. Trump says he won't even commit to banning abortion (sounds about right for a guy that's probably paid for dozens of 'em).

So... how are things going to "have to change" if you can't threaten childless couples and you can't redistribute the wealth to people that do want kids? Continually fearmonger mandatory birthing policies without actually implementing them just to get a rise out of your citizens? It's nonsense, and if America is given a choice between "fucking over wealthy people" and "having tons of kids to staff McDonalds at minimum wage" I can tell you offhand which one 99% of citizens will pick. We're already halfway there given how far China has surpassed the US in places - today's Americans hate capitalism so much they're content watching their country suffer until businesses get the message.

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The reality are that half of the planet already pays more then 50 percent in taxes, and with much higher taxation the whole country will implodes.

More then this - public pensions are one of the main reasons for low birth rate. You can't have both, if children's role as social insurance passes to public pensions - children became useless.

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> It's vanity only.

What a profoundly ignorant statement. How much would I have to pay you to put on 30 pounds and deal with morning sickness for the next 9 months? Does $0 sound about right?

Oh, so now it's not about vanity and has everything to do with your comfort as an individual. Crazy what a tiny bit of empathy can do - and we haven't even gotten to the messy part yet.

Fucking ingrate. What's next, men don't want to pass kidney stones because it makes them feel emasculate?

Great in the short term, really crappy and lonely in the long term. Couples like this get to enjoy themselves in themselves in their 30s, 40s, and 50s while their friends and families are investing in their children and grandchildren, and then then the DINKs retire and find that they don't have anyone around to spend time with. The friend's lives and social groups revolve around their children and grandchildren, and they don't have all that much in common with the childless couple that's in their 60s. Then they still have 20-30 years of life expectancy if the loneliness doesn't kill them first.
There's a source of truth there, but it's also easy to overstate and to show only this side of the story.

My parents' lives revolved around their children too, and me and my brother are both working abroad at the moment (for work, love and adventure). My dad hasn't invested much in his social life, hobbies or skills, because he had a family. Divorced with kids out of the house and even out of the country, he's lonely.

Meanwhile his childless brothers and sisters have much more active social lives. They're an active part of the family life as well, but it's not the only thing they have going for them.

I'll gladly volunteer to be the first to say "Fuck those societal expectations, that's insane."

You don't owe your children much more than food, love and a roof over their head. Sure, you might want to give them the world, but don't listen to anyone telling you that's the expectation - that's a fast track to resentment.

On the contrary, from a moral standpoint you owe your children everything. You forced them into existence without their consent.

Though I agree that doesn't have to mean conforming to societal expectations of ivy league schools and so forth. Food, love and a roof over your head goes a long way.

I cannot put my finger on why I dislike this comment so deeply but I am a parent and I suspect you are not.

To be specific I dislike your framing and use of the word "forced". I do agree though that parents should deeply love and support their kids which is what it sounds like you are trying to say. And in turn, your kids should do the same despite "generational differences".

> I cannot put my finger on why I dislike this comment so deeply but I am a parent and I suspect you are not.

I am also a parent.

> I do agree though that parents should deeply love and support their kids which is what it sounds like you are trying to say.

Loving your kids is not a moral obligation, though most do (for the record, I love mine very much). Supporting your kids is a moral obligation, whether you love them or not, incurred by creating them.

> And in turn, your kids should do the same despite "generational differences".

I disagree. Our kids will never be morally obligated towards us in any way. We can only hope to have loved and supported them enough for them to love and support us back of their own volition.

> I disagree. Our kids will never be morally obligated towards us in any way. We can only hope to have loved and supported them enough for them to love and support us back of their own volition.

I agree with this. Kids can't willingly bring themselves into the world (although "forced" is an exaggeration), and the burden is on their parents. A kid, until a certain point, is a person with certain needs and restrictions that call for external supervision (e.g. needing shelter, not voting). I consider a person in general to not have inherent obligations beyond not killing and whatnot. Sure, I can ditch my friend in a socially awkward moment and that would make me a huge jerk, but surely it doesn't rise to the same level as hitting someone.

> Loving your kids is not a moral obligation, though most do (for the record, I love mine very much). Supporting your kids is a moral obligation, whether you love them or not, incurred by creating them.

I don't quite know what you mean by "loving" versus "supporting". To me, supporting sounds like loving, with the caveat that I think emotional care ties into supporting a kid. Do you mean extra things like buying more presents on holidays?

> (although "forced" is an exaggeration)

Maybe. "Forced" implies "against their will", and prior to existing they of course had no will to oppose. It seems like you know what I mean though, and I'll try to think of less harsh verbiage for my point.

> I don't quite know what you mean by "loving" versus "supporting". To me, supporting sounds like loving, with the caveat that I think emotional care ties into supporting a kid. Do you mean extra things like buying more presents on holidays?

I may have been overly pedantic in separating them. By "love" I mean the actual emotion, which can never be forced or obligated. By "support" I mean everything we do for our kids. And part of supporting our kids is making sure they never doubt that we love them, which perhaps renders the difference moot.

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>To be specific I dislike your framing and use of the word "forced".

Why?

Because it directly contradicts their world view where child-rearing and the success of said child’s genetics is the highest purpose one can pursue.
Disagree philosophically, there was no "them" to consent prior to them existing, so no one was forced. I think this is gesturing at Benatar's antinatalist argument but as you'll recall it rests on a metaphysical asymmetry here I have just never found convincing. Appreciate you keeping the pushback civil, however.
True, no one is asked whether or not they would like to be born and then forced into it after disagreeing, but once they are brought into existence they will experience suffering in life, does anyone ever desire such suffering for themselves?

Seems to me that parents should want to minimize that suffering, even if I also disagree with “owing them everything” as parents should also help them to grow into self-sufficient beings. It’s a tough balance to strike and I won’t pretend to be an expert on it, I’m only just getting started myself.

Ceteris paribus everyone wants to minimize the suffering of another. All the more when it's your own child. That's very different from having a moral obligation towards them to minimize their suffering, which is the thrust of my original post.

The thing is the vast majority of people find living to be on the whole a source of great joy, far greater than any suffering they may experience as a byproduct of it. The handful who don't do have the option, grim as it may be to consider, of returning to nonexistence. The fact that this option isn't taken by even 1% of people suggests strongly that nonexistence just isn't that compelling an alternative.

> Disagree philosophically, there was no "them" to consent prior to them existing, so no one was forced.

The point is that the obligation flows one way because one party was inserted into it without their consent.

Does their lack of preexistence impact that equation in a meaningful way?

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> The point is that the obligation flows one way because one party was inserted into it without their consent.

Well, philosophically it's not a big problem, because dissatisfied can very easily stop participating.

>Does their lack of preexistence impact that equation in a meaningful way?

Yes. Obviously.

If every generation is expected to sacrifice themselves for the next, it kind of begs the question of what is the point of it all. Having some reciprocal balance makes more sense to me.

One can also turn around your moral argument: Your children owe you everything, since they wouldn’t exist at all without you.

> from a moral standpoint you owe your children everything. You forced them into existence without their consent.

I offer that the above is the first truth of parenting.

After I understood it, organizing my priorities became far simpler.

Parenting is service.

It's interesting to compare this perspective with religious teachings which tend to say that kids owe everything to their parents ("honor") and that parents responsibility is to train their kids with good moral character (on top of food, love & shelter).

As a parent you want to give them everything but you then have to balance that against realities & other priorities. That's part of the training of a good moral character: learning to manage life's limitations & your response to those limitations.

> You don't owe [...] you might want to

What's the difference? If you don't boost them with all your might, you effectively condemn them to a life of struggle and misery, in today's world. Knowing this, it's gonna be you forcing yourself to give them your all, not society's expectations.

>If you don't boost them with all your night, ... Life of struggle and misery, in today's world.

That's not my experience of the world at all. Quite the opposite, in fact: I had a pretty good time when I was coasting by on minimum effort, and I'm having an even better time now that I'm putting in some mild amount of effort.

I have no reason to suspect this will change in the next generation. If anything the falling costs of goods and services everywhere suggests they'll get an even easier ticket.

> You don't owe your children much more than food, love and a roof over their head.

except that "love" part is a huge bucket that includes pretty much everything that we do for our kids (which is a heck of a lot more than food and shelter)

> expectation

it's not social expectation that drive what we sacrifice for our children; it's our love for our children that does, at least the parents I know (including myself)

I agree and think that this is a huge growing cultural expectation - "you have to live for your children". I don't think it used to be the case.

Well OK sure I get that that would be good for kids but you're also gonna limit the number of parents if that's the new normal.

I actually think it is good for kids to have exposure to:

- entertaining themselves

- working/providing for themselves

- having to do things that they don’t want to do

- being told no, and dealing with unfulfilled desire

All with balance, I am not proposing that kids are just left to fend for themselves. Caring for your kids materially and emotionally is important, but so is living your own life and making them live theirs.

I may be having kids in the not too distant future, and when I think about how I would parent, I consider 2 families I know who I have seen raise children.

In one, the kids are often denied requests they make for objects they want to own and activities they want to do. The parents drag their kids along to things that they (the parents) want to do, rather than not doing the thing because the kids don’t want to. At family gatherings, their parents expect that they will take care of and entertain themselves, while the parents enjoy time with the other adults.

In the other family, the kids are showered with toys and attention, and their mom goes to great effort to open any door for them that they express interest in. At family gatherings, the parents are always checking on their kids, and indulge every request the kids make of them.

Which family has happier, more capable, and well-adjusted children? Which family has happier parents? The answer to both is the first family.

The high-effort parents I know aren't overly concerned with that their kids want, but they constantly sacrifice their own time and sanity for what they deem to be in the child's best interests.

Kids love screens, parents love getting to do their own thing while the child is quietly occupied, but a certain type of parent feels the need to go to war over the screen time limit rather than enjoy their dinner. Neither father nor son is having a good time at soccer practice, but a kid's got to have a sport. And so on.

We're calling for something bolder here than merely the will to override a child's wishes. Parents need a permission structure to prioritize their own desires, not just the ones they have on behalf of the children.

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It might be mildly good for kids on net, I actually don't really have a lot of confidence around that claim - kids are quite good at keeping themselves entertained. I have high confidence around the claim that it is moderately bad for parents, and so my sympathies lie quite strongly with reducing the workload on them.
Well OK sure I get that that would be good for kids

And past a certain point it's not.

>> Well OK sure I get that that would be good for kids

> And past a certain point it's not.

Where do you estimate that point is? What harm do you believe lies past it?

Parent of small kids here. Tricky to estimate, because the desire to not have your kids be worse off because you didn't do enough, and the desire for them to have it better than you, are strong and not really bounded.

However, the idea of parents giving 100% of themselves to the children is also an unsustainable one, and fundamentally horrifying one - if everyone things this way, generation by generation, then this robs existence from any meaning. It's admitting that all the good and nice things in the world, all that separates us from other animals, are all accidents, all made by people who weren't good enough at giving their children their best, and instead wasted their time on stuff like arts and sciences.

So I think there must be a point somewhere. And perhaps a hint of that is the observation that kids are better off with happy parents than with unhappy ones.

> However, the idea of parents giving 100% of themselves to the children is also an unsustainable one,

No one is suggesting giving 100% because it is an impossibility. What is suggested is that parents and children have the same priority - the children's wellbeing.

I have 5 adult sons. The value of my wellbeing is that it enhances their wellbeing. This reflects the nature of our one-way debt. They owe me nothing. I owe them what I can give.

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>You don't owe your children much more than food, love and a roof over their head

That's a rather simplistic view where your kids don't get ill and are born healthy.

Not to mention many other complications.

There’s also some number of couples whose ideal is “no compromises” — that is, they hope to both provide the best for their kids and keep the nice house, vacations, comfortable retirement, etc.

While this isn’t strictly impossible, it’s well beyond the reach of most, and so I suspect that this group mostly ends up never having kids.

Many young people I know see nothing being done about climate change and make their choice right there. These are also smart, educated well-off types. The level of suffering we can expect isn't something they want to introduce children into.

I find it surprising this is somehow difficult for governments to grok.

I doubt it will make a difference but climate change isn't expected to cause great suffering. Compared to great filter events, climate change doesn't even register. Estimates are of a rise of [2-4 degrees centigrade by 2100.](https://dnr.wisconsin.gov/climatechange/science#:~:text=Glob....) This will likely result in an [increase](https://iopscience.iop.org/article/10.1088/1748-9326/6/1/014....) of arable land. [Global mean sea-level rise is expected to be between 0.30 and 0.65 m by 2100,](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41612-020-0121-5) which might affect some Dutch towns during storms but is negligible. [As the number of storms are estimated to decrease, the threat vector is slightly increasing storm intensity.](https://climate.nasa.gov/news/3184/a-force-of-nature-hurrica....) Humans can handle storms. We can rebuild homes, change where we settle and live, build with better materials and practises, and improve storm infrastructure and protections. In fact, as the temperature rises slightly, fewer people will die due to temperature extremes. This is because at present, many more people die due to exposure to low temperatures than high temperatures.

We really have done a great disservice to a generation which believes the planet will be dead in a few decades.

Heat disproportionately kills young people:

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/dec/06/young-adults...

What I think you're missing is that it's not about human resilience on a technical level, it's about the power structures that do nothing to really fix it, the corruption, the stupidity, the lack of empathy, the corporations that trample everything for profit. It's a major turn off for young people, they see this and think, why bring a lovely innocent child into such a shit show. We can have all the sex we want, have more money, and enjoy life and not participate in the rat race. Many people don't see it as a tragedy either. It's just a choice they make and move on.

Humans can handle storms. We can rebuild homes, change where we settle and live, build with better materials and practises, and improve storm infrastructure and protections.

Yeah, people don't want to raise children in this sort of chaotic, apocalyptic scenario where your town is wiped out by some major, never seen before flash flood event. You rebuild and some new major storms topples it.

In fact, as the temperature rises slightly, fewer people will die due to temperature extremes. This is because at present, many more people die due to exposure to low temperatures than high temperatures.

Not where I live, farmers were having trouble doing their jobs due to the extreme heat this year. In 50 years at current trajectory? More people on earth, likely less food, what will that be like?

Excellent comment. All the evidences suggests to me that removing Social Security/Medicare and other wealth transfers from young to old are actually the only thing that might incentivize sufficient people to have sufficient kids to meet replacement TFR AND raise the kids into the type of adults you want.

The reasoning behind this is even with the best quality of life, many women will have 2 children, but insufficient women will have 3 or more children such that it offsets the number of women who have 0 or 1 child.

Those with zero children really drag the average down, and if it is because partnering with a certain portion of the population is simply not worth it, then government efforts on improving quality of life via work and benefit policies are not going to bump TFR to replacement rate.

Humanity has never seen such an extreme wealth transfer from young to old as what is going on in the industrialized world right now.

Pensions: Wealth transfer from young to old.

Taxes: Wealth transfer from young to old.

Socialized health care: Wealth transfer from young to old.

Rent: Wealth transfer from young to old.

Inflation: Wealth transfer from young to old (who owns the real estate?)

Capitalism: Wealth transfer from young to old (who owns the stocks?)

National debt: Wealth transfer from young to old.

It seems like all different systems at work in industrialized nations has the single goal of extracting all productivity from young workers and giving it to the current generation of elderly. Even the ideologies who on the face are against each other (socialism vs capitalism) both work mainly to reap everything form the young to give to the old.

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What you're saying is true, but I believe there are other factors at play as well.

A significant part of the decrease in fertility rates comes from the sharp decline in teen pregnancy (counted as live births) over the past 30 years.

>But with kids, that mostly goes out the window.

That's what I mean when I say they should try making life better. Make it so that with kids I can have a house and family vacations and all the other things that my parents had access to. It's logically equivalent to say "life is harder with kids" or "life is easier without kids".

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If you survey couples people say it's the money. There's no need to invent a whole narrative. People just say it's money (and stuff downstream of money like not being able to afford bigger housing to have a second kid rather than just one)
I’m skeptical that most daycare spending is driven by prestige-seeking or social pressure. Some undoubtedly is but the “standard” options are crazy expensive.
Don't feel bad. It's good for the planet and society to reduce the population somewhat. It can't keep growing forever. All the major problems we have are a result of it. Climate change, housing shortage, resource conflicts etc.

The demographic problems during a decline are only temporary.

If the world had only 1 billion people it would be a lot easier. The whole idea that humanity would go extinct is ridiculous. And humanity is still growing anyway due to the many countries that don't have falling birth rates.

There's always people wanting to have kids. This is just society adjusting itself to the current overpopulation.

> It's actually that life is too good for childless people

I'm not going to idly sit by and let people who have children take my hard earned money from me. If you think increasing taxes on those without children won't cause a massive retaliation by the men who are not able to find female mates to have children with, you are in for a massive surprise.

The parents I've seen seem to spend every waking second doting on their children for at least a decade, which seems strange to me. This hovering "what can I do to satisfy your desires" literally just constantly (I've also seen people doing this with their dogs). Maybe I'm missing something or my sample size is skewed.

The people I've seen doing this are also just exhausted, as they've said directly.

It comes down to... the rent is too damn high.

Young people without children willing to spend 1/3 to 1/2 of their total income servicing mortgages or rent drives the cost of living to ridiculous levels. People can't afford child care either by having family live close to high earners to help, or to hire child care. So it's unaffordable. There's nowhere to live for families in high density places (apartment buildings optimize for the highest rent tennants, 1,2 BR single people)

Lots of people want children but can't engineer a life for themselves to have them without moving somewhere really far out and boring or being in the top 5% of earners, or living in squalor despite high incomes.

>The parents I've seen seem to spend every waking second doting on their children for at least a decade, which seems strange to me. This hovering "what can I do to satisfy your desires" literally just constantly

While some of it may be overbearing parenting due to wanting kids to compete or train for the future, there is also the fact that kids cannot be left alone, and there is no extended family supervision for them, and you are told you cannot let your kids sit in front of a screen all day.

There’s no neighborhood chain of kids ranging from high school to toddler playing with each other, there is no outside time without adult supervision, an adult who is legally liable.

And of course, cars. The environment is optimized for cars, not kids, so kids either sit inside alone or with 1 sibling or they need to be supervised.

Not applicable to every single family, but many.

It really cannot be understated how few homes we have built since the Great Recession and the terrible impact that has had on COL.

To give an idea of what it takes to solve a housing shortfall, Sweden successfully embarked on a million-homes program over a decade in the 70s when the population of Sweden was 7 million.

NYC recently just celebrated the passage of a zoning reform that allows at most 80,000 new homes, and the population is 8.2 million.

Yes. I 100% believe in the Housing Theory of Everything: https://worksinprogress.co/issue/the-housing-theory-of-every...
> The parents I've seen seem to spend every waking second doting on their children for at least a decade, which seems strange to me. This hovering "what can I do to satisfy your desires" literally just constantly (I've also seen people doing this with their dogs)

parenting doesn't have to be like this for the kids to be happy; in fact, it's probably counter-productive in many cases

I have also seen this and in many cases it's pressure for the kids to succeed. Back in the 70s and early 80s you literally just had to not fall off the wagon, and could get a job and be okay. Wanted to go to Stanford, or become a doctor? Sure it would take some work, but completely doable. Want your kid to go to Stanford now if they like? You have to put your kid through a horribly stressful regime that starts in preschool, and even then it's going to be a lottery. Granted you don't need to go to Stanford to be happy but my point being that you want your kids to have opportunities, and getting those opportunities is SO FUCKING HARDER than it was for you as the parent when you were young (and way way harder than your own parents). And so you have to optimize for it, and the earlier you start, the better your chances. It's crushing for the parents and the kids. And the more successful the parents were, the more pressure to give their kids the same opportunities they had.

It's not really a problem you can pick around at the edges. You have to take some big swings to try to resolve it. Politicians, businesses, and the entire voting public, need to take a hard look at the real things they can do that will have an actual effect. 4-day workweek is a big one.
>entire voting public,

Won't happen explicitly, The masses are short sighted. Might happen implicitly through a series of co-incidental events but never by design.

Second item: housing needs to be a bad investment. Both for individuals and corporate.
Land (and rent seeking) need to be a bad investment. Building housing (and building anything in general, whether it be housing, businesses, families, etc) should be a good investment.

Right now, with earned income tax, we do the exact opposite. We punish the people that do things, and reward the rent seekers with tax breaks (1031 exchange/low land value tax rates/senior citizen discounts/etc). The proof is in the pudding, everyone wants to become a rent seeker, and this is what society will look like if that is the case.

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I am not sure about this one. In the past, quality of life was terrible compared to modern life but fertility was not an issue.
Quality of life was terrible, but some things were still easier. Most importantly, that terrible quality of life was cheap enough that your kids could probably support you in your old age. Medical care wasn't so advanced, which is cheaper, but also means you had a good chance of dying younger or of a condition we could cure today. Housing was cheaper but also worse back then. Investments weren't accessible to the vast majority of people and "retirement" as a concept didn't really exist for the lower classes except as an idea that you would probably be too old to effectively do your job someday. Nowadays, your kids probably can't afford to support you into your old age, and you probably don't have a pension, which means making more money now so that you don't have to work until you die. You have a lot more options for a higher quality of life, but they tend to require that you prioritize money over a family unless you are either in the privileged position of being able to afford both or poor enough that it doesn't matter.
Kids used to be seen as a way to increase quality of life. They were free labor and a retirement plan all rolled into one.

They still are seen as a way to increase quality of life but in a more vibey sort of way.

Was it more terrible? You certainly had more organic social connections and family support. Physically tougher than a modern white collar job? Sure. Better than commuting and working for some shitty boss though!
We take so much for granted. Living in a world without electricity, medicine, food scarcity, lack of safety net.

Family didn't offer as much support as it appears. Average kids are working farms rich children are sent away to be raised.

The social bonds of the modern world still exist in the same places as the past. It starts with the church.. so if you crave the social connections you can still go to church to find it.

You almost had a coherent point until the last sentence. I'll take my social bonds without the side-order of dogma, thanks.
What bonds people in the past is religious dogma. We removed it and we wonder why our social bonds are so weak.

I'm not suggesting we go back but we have nothing to replace it. The one thing a church did was welcome in everyone. We don't have places like that anymore.

I guess I have to tell my local card shop to stop welcoming everyone on Commander night, because you're only allowed to do that if you're a church.
Welcoming people with money who buy cards as a promotion to sell goods.

It's not a place to hold a wedding or funeral. You can't go inside and sit down without someone trying to sell you something.

Some form of community can happen at a card shop. I use to hang around one when a was younger. Also got kicked out every now and then for hanging out too much.

I got married in a public park. It was free and everyone can convene there. What it doesn't do is insulate you from people you may find disagreeable or distasteful, which a church does.
Most places require a permit but aside from that, that's a personal event you invited people you know to. Everyone can't convene there. It's a one time event and because you pick the guests it does insulate you from people you find disagreeable.
Surely you are now arguing against your own point? If one holds a wedding at a church, it is typically not open to the public any more than a wedding in a park. "Wedding crashers" aside, you invite people you know and it is typically not expected nor desired for the general public to attend. It's nothing unusual; churches schedule time for weddings all the time, and then go right back to being a public gathering space once the event is over. I should add, since it's part of the core of this debate, that the idea that churches are universally welcoming or truly public is itself debatable: they hold a religious function and while churches are usually open to all attendees, you will struggle to find community there unless you share the religious beliefs of the other attendees. That is to say, the church as a structure is open to all; the church as a community is not.

For what it's worth, my wedding was intentionally kept small, which allowed us to hold a ceremony without a permit and without closing off any public areas.

ipaddr has a point.

The average person (non-scientist, non-technical) has replaced belief in the supernatural and the church with belief in science and the institutions of the state, and though there have been major improvements, we haven't completely refactored the old yet. Community and meaning is major functionality that we have yet to figure out anew.

I mean, this is the concept of the "third space." They have existed throughout history and while churches are certainly one example, they are not the only example. A church (or temple or mosque or whatever) fills a certain community role as a gathering space for religious worship, but it's not the only place where you can meet and talk to people.
Come up with a third space to rival the church of old and you’ll be hailed as a cultural hero for the next millenium. Starbucks has not cut it.
Jim Rouse thought it would be the shopping mall and designed my city of residence (Columbia, MD) with the shopping mall at its center.

It was a decent bet for 1967.

American shopping malls of the mid-to-late 20th century were a decent bet, but I think they fail because a) they're very pedestrian hostile, b) they tend to be owned by a singular landlord that can enforce policies that discourage gathering, and c) they just kind of smack of artificiality. But bazaars, street markets, and other commercial areas have certainly been third-places since before long before it was a defined term. Heck, the ancient Greeks were quite proud of their agora.
Try asking that after spending a while living in a tenement building with 3 people per room and frequent outbreaks of dysentery and smallpox.
People still live like this today.
extremely rare in countries with falling birth rates
> In the past, quality of life was terrible compared to modern life but fertility was not an issue.

not sure which "past" you're referring to, but in agricultural societies, more kids was important to survival and quality of life, as you needed hands on the farm; also, the child mortality rate was much higher so you had to have more kids to start with; that was also pre-birth control -- as soon as that was introduced the birth rate started to fall tremendously

I imagine that birth control as well as the giant array of entertainment options available to us other than sex contributes to modern fertility

Why do poorer people have more kids? Sex is free, birth control and netflix is not

Poor people are also more religious, and in the age of birth control,religions that don't explicitly require their adherents to procreate will have far fewer followers than those that do after just a few generations.
People didn’t have a choice back then. So the two options now are: “force people to have kids” or “make life better for people so they want kids”. I’d like to think we’ve evolved enough as a society to choose the later option.
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There is no later option, actually. No matter how good life would be - people won't have more children. Prosperity in the context of fertility matters only in relative values, not in absolute values. People have a lot of children not when they are wealthy, but when they are wealthier than others, and so it always be minority, no matter how good life are.
I'm skeptical that falling birth rates have much to do with the demands of a dual working household.

Look at Europe which has significant maternity and paternity leave, subsidized daycare and free college. Lots and lots of support for young parents.

Yet birth rates haven't really budged.

I think it has more to do with the expectation of how much effort to raise a kid has drastically increased.

75 years ago, you'd pump out 5 kids and they'd be independent quite young. By 4-5 years old it was "go find something to do". As long as the kid wasn't failing school, grades didn't matter. If the kid was involved in school sports, they made their own way to events. Parents didn't attend regularly. By the time they were 7-8, they could help with the younger kids.

By the time your kids was a 8-10, it was pretty much "keep em fed and out of trouble".

Today, expectations are way, way higher. Parents worry about what elementary school their kids get into. After school academic and sports activities start super young. Parents want to attend the big events. Then high school and it time to grind. Tutors, SAT prep, college tours, etc, etc. Minimal chores because that would interfere with school and sports.

One kid today is equal to the effort of 3-4 kids 75 years ago.

> first time I've seen anyone float the idea that making life better for people might make them a bit more inclined to make more people

Financial incentives for giving birth have been around in some countries for decades. In France it's called "prime à la naissance". This is on top of delivery being almost free.

And treat parenting as something other than a passion project you work on nights and weekends.
So many comments just focus on DINK being selfish but there are good reasons to not have children and I agree there needs to be better incentives, and barriers removed too.

Here are just a few reasons to not have children that may not have to do purely with selfishness. Many of these may not come up in casual conversation. It is easier to look selfish and say you prefer to keep the money and spend it on yourself for fun than going in the details of things like:

- "not wanting to do that to your body" can be more than concerns about appearance. Even if survival rates for mothers is much better, there are still plenty severe injuries and side effects to deal with. Plus among my relatives, I have yet to find a woman who didn't suffer from medical violence during her pregnancy or when giving birth. This wasn't talked about among women until they were pregnant not so long ago, understandably knowing what to expect can make it much less appealing.

- same thing with expectations about what parenting is like. Parents are more open about struggles, or regret. Even if they don't regret their kids a good number I know said if they could go back, though wouldn't have their kids even if they love them. Add to this social pressure to parent a certain way, non parents being quick to judge etc.

- some folks dont want kids because they don't think they can afford it despite having two incomes, or consider that their income would severely drop if one parent has to stop working to care for the kids, making it unaffordable. They want to give the best to their kids, so they delay forever or accept they won't ever be in a good enough place.

- some people wouldn't be good parents and know it. I've talked to enough childfree women, and many felt obliged to have kids but didn't because their own mothers were resentful parents, which resulted in a traumatic childhood.

- some want kids to care for them when they're old but see elders being left to fend for themselves or forgotten in abusive retirement homes - they may decide even with kids there's no guarantee so why bother?

- some maybe tried and couldn't conceive until they found it was too late, or couldn't afford medical assistance, or lost a child during pregnancy and couldn't bear to try again.

- some may not think their genes are something they should pass on, or don't feel the need to pass on their own genes.

- Some may have cared for sibling/cousins/nephews and know they wouldn't make good full time parents but would be ok helping others as part of "the village".

Being a DINK also has disadvantages, like constantly being expected to pick up colleagues workload when they have parenting demands during work hours, not getting nearly as many benefits (at least where i work), feeling like your free time is a free for all for anyone to take outside work because you don't have kids, so it's assumed that you have nothing going on in life. Like, feel free to ask and I can help but you don't have to be so callous about it.

I see it can be hard to have compassion for each other, if each thing the other should just deal with the consequences of their decisions. I read several posts pitching DINKs against parents over income distribution. If anything, it should be all of us parents and non parents against a system that favours a handful of extremely wealthy people.

ps: also let's try to make parent's lives better instead of saying DINK have it too good. Surely we can work to make everyone equally happy instead of making everyone equally miserable...

I had an interesting discussion with my nephew about this post. He angers me with the way he talks about stuff, but I consider it an exercise in mental fortitude. Allow me to share his absolutely crazy and unreasonable thoughts on this:

"Nobody really wants more people except certain religious sects, and that is only because it allows them to use sexuality to control people. Most modern capitalists would favor automation precisely because it takes unreliable people out of the capitalistic equation and makes conversion of real property to wealth and power easier. The only reason why we're hearing about fertility and birth rate in the last few years is because certain religious organizations are scared they're going to end up losing their tax-free status and leveraging current social crises to make sure they stay relevant by any means necessary. I'm betting they have armies of incels ensnared in their fundamentalist ideologies getting tax-free money to shitpost on the various social networks."

I cut him off right there. I think he was drinking, and I haven't talked to him since. I'm considering having him committed because he acts very strange. He may have a drug problem.

Anyway I disagree with his premise because COVID-19 did really expose weaknesses in the supply chain and global world order and showed that depending completely on foreign entities can make you non-resilient in the face of disaster. So we do need strong families and all that stuff that's being talked about, it's a real actual need. And I do think making life better for people is the way to go, but we need to fix whatever decided that landlords should be getting most of the non-rich people's money first.

Your over-reaction sounds far more reminiscent of mental illness or drug abuse than any of his actual opinions, which are fairly pedestrian in 2024 (for the record I don't agree with them).

No one is going to commit him over that grandpa, seriously.

He's not totally wrong, just replace "Religious organizations" with "Governments" and "tax-free status" with "solders and workers"
How about we go further, and replace "Governments" with "human civilization" and "tax-free status" with "continued existence"?
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Unbounded population growth is sufficient but not necessary for continued existence of a civilization..
The problem goes the other way - developed nations, the ones where you have people living comfortably enough to talk stuff like RiverCrochet's nephew, are all living below replacement rate. As things currently are, our countries are already extinct, they just don't know it yet.

The irony. For the past 50+ years, we were so obsessed with the threat of overpopulation that we didn't think of the opposite; didn't even realize that people who care about such things will all have bred themselves out of existence way before Earth gets too crowded.

There just may not be as much of a need for as many humans in the future as robots are built instead.

So maybe instead of 8 billion humans, we will have 1 billion humans and 99 billion robots. Then the humans can all be the 1%. Or maybe there won’t be any humans, and the robots can decide how many robots there should be.

> There just may not be as much of a need for as many humans in the future as robots are built instead.

Maybe, but we may never get there if the population that can build robots becomes too small to impact the direction of the economy.

> So maybe instead of 8 billion humans, we will have 1 billion humans and 99 billion robots

It's fun until you ask yourself, how will you allocate voting rights?

That is, again, if we can even get there, because again, differences in birth rates across countries and cultures, plus voting rights, means a shift in mindsets and priorities.

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Also old people. They need younger people to support them, like grow their food, fix their houses, etc. But given that I plan on growing old, as I hope you do too, we should make sure the generations after us are capable of taking care of us.
Yes, and the basic idea that while a "modern" capitalist might want automation from a productivity point of view, they still need some consumers at the other end to buy their stuff!
Not exactly, because "governments" are expressly capitalist. While you're right in that governments and capitalists want this type of fodder, OP's nephew is wrong in his assessment of modern capitalists.

As an aside, some religions do teach a duty to be fruitful and multiply. While I don't think capital G "Government" cares who does or doesn't procreate in their country, there are large organized political groups that promote this for strictly ethno-nationalist reasons.

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You might should read up on postmodern philosophy before you serve up your relative to the system, for deviating from your "one true narrative of history".

So arrogant.

Someone should have you committed for your personal opinions, which are also wrong, and see how you like it.

To be clear, I'm not saying he should be committed for his opinions, but he does do some other very strange things and I think he really does need help. Unfortunately the medical bills would bankrupt him.
> I'm considering having him committed because he acts very strange.

By your own suggestion, I think they should start with you.

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>>I cut him off right there. I think he was drinking, and I haven't talked to him since. I'm considering having him committed because he acts very strange. He may have a drug problem.

You sound like a terrible person for him to have in his life & I hope he cuts you out of it.

For context, while Japan has a reputation of a shitty place for work culture, a lot has changed.

Not everything, but many more companies will allow for flexible hours for instance, full remote has stayed in many places, and more traditional place usually allow one or two days or remoting every week.

There is a communal sense that growth is basically gone and better conditions are negotiable. Newer companies have been offering better conditions and older companies are having to compete and follow up to some point.

This initiative is following that trend. Schools are facing the same "adapt or get shunned" situation where just nobody wants to be a teacher and family/friends will actively try to stop someone from going there.

So things are changing.

Why is it bad to be a teacher in Japan?
To put it mildly, it's a shitty job.

I don't think it's an easy job in most countries, but in Japan in particular the pay is low, hours are long and the expected work load is super heavy as it includes endless meetings, paperwork, watching extracurricular activities often including on weekends, seasonal events etc.

Some still enjoy it as a vocation, but on paper it's just mind crushing.

https://www3.nhk.or.jp/nhkworld/en/news/backstories/3580/

Thanks, I didn’t know that about Japan
Clarifying point: this is the Tokyo local government not a national policy.
And even in Tokyo it only applies to metropolitan (roughly, state) workers, not the ward (roughly, city) governments.

According to the data below, there's anywhere from 33k to 161k metropolitan employees depending on where you draw the line.

https://www.metro.tokyo.lg.jp/tosei/hodohappyo/press/2024/01...

A very important clarification.

Sounds like office workers only.

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I wish these stories would say if the hours are changing or not.

32 hours, 4 days a week seems better to me. But if all you do is take 40 hours and make it 10 hour days I’m not that much happier.

One year a company did mandatory 'half-day Fridays' during the summer where the company closed after a half day on Friday.

But in order to do that we had to work 9 hour days Monday - Thursday.

That extra hour those four days felt torturous, so it meant four days of feeling awful just so I could leave a few hours early on a day in which most people (and myself) already weren't working too hard anyway.

I hated it.

This was at a very low output insurance company, btw, so there often wasn't huge pressure to get things done quickly (new software releases were once a quarter, and IT would complain that two months lead time wasn't enough time to provision a single new server that was a clone of an existing server, as an example of how slow things moved), and the days dragged on way long.

I worked more high pressure startups before where I was often there for 9 or more hours by necessity to meet deadlines that didn't feel so bad.

I had a job that offered your choice of 4x10 or 5x8.

Many people took the 4x10 but then discovered they couldn't handle 10 hour days every day. Like you said, the last 1-2 hours were so unproductive they might as well have been not working.

So some people didn't even try to work those last 2 hours. They'd sit at their desks and watch things or play games, pretending to work when anyone came in. Kind of ruined it for everyone.

So you traded 1 whole day for 2h a day to do whatever you wanted but at the office?

Sounds like you spread Friday across the other days. Still a good deal to me, I'd take some online courses or something I wanted to do anyway in my free time.

> 2h a day to do whatever you wanted but at the office?

Oh, joy. I definitely wouldn't prefer a prison cell with a bed, tv, bookshelf, and privacy. What were those WFH people crying about?

> One year a company did mandatory 'half-day Fridays' during the summer where the company closed after a half day on Friday.

> But in order to do that we had to work 9 hour days Monday - Thursday.

This is SOP at my work in Spain. It's fine for me, they're very flexible anyway. And I work from home so much that it doesn't really exhaust me.

I wouldn't have had an issue with it if I was WFH at that time, but I wasn't.

But I have been WFH the past six years and at this point I can't really handle going to the office for a full day anymore. Every once in a while I go into the office for something and after 4 hours I'm staring at the clock and itching to leave (even if I have work to do).

I usually duck out after about 6 hours, I say it's to beat the worst of the traffic (which is true, it's still pretty bad, I still have a 60-90 minute commute home), but also just because I feel super antsy by that point.

And my current office isn't terrible (but it's not good either). The one where I had to work 9 hour days that one summer was twice as sterile, with terrible dim flourescent lighting, and it was way too formal.

> But I have been WFH the past six years and at this point I can't really handle going to the office for a full day anymore. Every once in a while I go into the office for something and after 4 hours I'm staring at the clock and itching to leave (even if I have work to do).

Agreed. I have to go twice a week officially but I wouldn't know how to cope if I actually did that. I end up going once every two weeks or so and I come late and knock off early. And yeah like you say I'm super drained after it. One time my vision even started flashing when I was in the metro. Now I have to say I'm neurodivergent so these things take a lot out of me.

But the office has changed also. Before the pandemic I used to come 2-3 times a week but I had my own desk, sat beside colleagues who I actually worked with and that understood the thing about IT which is if I have my headphones on I don't want to be interrupted because I'm concentrating on something.

Now we have people from all departments all over the place, like sales and marketing blabbing on the phone. It's very distracting. We have to fight over desks (often people take my booked desk and other people book one and don't show up), I have to carry around my stuff like I'm in playschool. It just feels like it's just a show, it no longer accomplishes anything. It's a very hostile work environment now.

WFH is just so much better. I'm more relaxed, my head is clear, I have more time to chat with others on Teams, and if I need to do something at night I just grab my screen because it's all open anyway. There's much less barriers.

I had a similar experience. I worked for a place where if you worked 48 minutes more per day, you'd get every 2nd Friday off. This was a unionized place that was pretty strict about not working extra hours due to overtime rules. After being hired, I didn't partake in this but had pretty short workdays. I would start at 8:30 and then leave at 4. It was great. However, pretty much everyone in the company did the system to get the 2nd Friday off. So I tried switching to that and I felt the same. It just felt so much longer.
> But in order to do that we had to work 9 hour days Monday - Thursday.

We actually work 9hs here in Argentina (1h is for lunch, although you're probably still at the office and discussing work-related things anyways so...)

Is the common thing in the US to work 9-5 (8hs) with lunch included? Or do you guys just not take lunch?

I always saw half time Fridays as just as bad as Fridays as a full work day. Now you’re just kinda making fun of workers with that. If I’m already doing the commute and the shower and the crap I have to do in the morning what’s the point?Might as well get some real work in and do a full day
Agreed.
> But if all you do is take 40 hours and make it 10 hour days I’m not that much happier

One fewer day of needing to context-switch would be a major life improvement.

I would still take 40 hrs in 4 days vs 5 days. Full extra day is a blessing.
It's Japan, so they alread have 10 if not 12 hour days, a lot of which isn't work in any sense. Cutting day out of the week also means removing the near-obligatory after-work 'socialising'.
For many high focus, mentally taxing jobs going from 8 to 10 hour days won't make a difference as you're already done after 4-6 hours anyways.
I have had friends and family that work 4x10s or even 3x12s and they all vastly prefer the trade-off of more hours per work day for fewer days.
I’d still likely take the option, I just think it’s unnecessary. Productivity is ridiculously up since the 8 hour day was established, even since just two decades ago.

Tasks expand to take up the available time, even if usefulness doesn’t.

I suspect you’d see little loss in cutting down to 32/hr/week, and I suspect it would be more than made up for by the gains of giving people that extra day. So it may be a net positive.

I guess my main concern is that a lot of companies (not speaking about Japan here, just the US) might decide to use four days a week as a way to make people crunch four days thinking that having three days off would make up for that. And things wouldn’t really be any better.

That's the unfortunate bit about salaries.

If you took a 4x per week job, you'd usually get a 20% pay reduction; however, many jobs could be compressed to 4 days without any loss in productivity.

I did 4x10 and I found it horrible. During the four days, I didn't get to do anything other than work and commute. And the stupid thing was that my output (and that of my coworkers as far as I could tell) was not really higher with 10 hours than with 8 hours. Three day weekends are nice though.
i've worked 10s before, and it's alternately amazing and terrible. at an office job, answering emails and going to meetings, 10hrs is completely beyond my tolerance level.

but if you've got a project, and you can just put your head down and work, then 10s are really nice.

I agree. It's nice if you have something you can get into flow on.

The biggest issue with 10s is commute time. If you work 10s with an hour+ commute, that's just awful.

10s may help the commute, depending on duration of local rush hour. I've worked places where leaving at peak meant an hour drive home, and waiting an hour (or two) meant a 30 minute drive home.

Otoh, if you take mass transit, waiting an hour or two may put you into all stop trains which could increase your commute time.

Wouldn't 10's be better for a longer commute? Need to do it 4 vs 5 days?
less overall commute time, yeah, but it means your day might be literally nothing but work and sleep.

probably not long-term sustainable.

100% -- We've been promised more free time due to AI. Probably better to cash in now before this promise is rescinded.
We were with mechanical automation too. And computers. And every other advance.

Things improve, jobs take less time to do, so they give us more. But it’s the same number of hours so pay doesn’t go up.

We all get screwed.

But you and your company are now "family", so you can bask in the glow of generating more shareholder value "together"! Hurrah.
One of my previous jobs did just that: 10-hours days, 4 days a week. First as an experiment for a month. They found our that performance has grown across the board (engineering, sales, support, etc) and then made it permanent; everybody rejoiced.

It was so much easier since then.

Curious how this plays out and comments from anyone who works there now. From what I've read about Japanese work culture, there are many perks/benefits offered but most do not take it cause it's considered selfish etc.
> make it 10 hour days I’m not that much happier

I'd much much rather work 4 x 10 than 5 x 8. Having a whole day without work makes a huge difference. Also, I find myself working 10 hrs a day anyway, so 5 x 10 (or more like 5 x 12).

not that much happier, no, but it's non-zero. esp with commute time, arranging lunch outside the home, parking or public transportation costs, childcare costs and all sorts of other little expenses that just vanish when you can stay home. Plus a 4x10 schedule doesn't result in a pay cut the way going from 5x8 to 4x8 would. My mom worked 4x10 as a nurse my entire childhood and loved the extra day.
From everyone I have ever known that was able to do the fewer days, even with same hours, it is still a game changer.
If they are just compress the 40 hours down to 4 days, then this won't work. I don't know how it works in Japan, but how the hell are you suppose to drop off and pick up kids with a 10 hour day, are schools and daycare even available 11-12 hours per day? They'd be increasing the stress four days a week to an ungodly level where families won't be able to function.

Most of these four-day workweeks are almost always bullshit, because they insist on keeping the same hours. I hope that's not the case here. Some companies have been experimenting with just slashing a day a week completely and it always increase productivity, retention and happiness.

Yeah, just implementing a 4 day week without clarity is horseshit

We've just implemented it for the winter and, while kind of good, the expectation is that you'll just get your work done with no conversation about capacity or differences between employees and departments and workloads.

I've actually said it ... I'd prefer 5 days with hybrid than a 4 day week

Who thought everyone wants a 4 day week? ... I just want the freedom to choose a balanced life and get a job done ... effectively giving the employer a day back!

I feel like we've learned nothing from Covid.

Having ranted that. For those implementing this properly. Kudos.

I disagree, hard.
Japan is forecast to still have 50 million people in 2120. I wouldn't call this a population crisis. With some rewilding it could be quite pleasant! I suspect companies are afraid of not growing, and governments are afraid to cut spending.

Source: https://www.jcer.or.jp/english/new-population-projection-how...

The problem is not the absolute number of people, but the ratio of relatively younger people who work and produce something, and the elderly who already are too frail and can only consume (pensions, medical care, etc).

Japan has now fewer productive workers per elderly person than most developed countries.

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Even if the birth rate suddenly tripled, it wouldn't solve that issue for at least a generation. There's going to have to be other solutions, maybe in the form of automation/robotics/etc in conjunction with societal/economic changes. I wouldn't be surprised if the older population resists necessary changes and exacerbates the problem, though.
Solving in a generation is fine if it starts now. GP is talking about a projection 100 years out.
A change to immigration policy could solve the issue within years, but Japan seems like the least likely nation to embrace that approach.
==Japan has now fewer productive workers per elderly person than most developed countries.==

Maybe, over the long run, we could change the expectation that elderly people can't be productive. Perhaps eliminating 20% of the workweek will allow people to maintain careers that are longer? The need to race towards retirement may lessen if we ease the burden of our weekly work schedule.

A lot of elderly Japanese already keep working well into old age. Some do it for health reasons (physical and mental), financial reasons, or out of something like civic pride/need to contribute to society. The problem is the sector of jobs that elderly people can't do.
It's just biology. People in their 70s and older are very likely to have physical and/or cognitive issues that substantially reduce their potential productivity. This is one of many reasons we should prioritize preventing and repairing the effects of aging, but until that happens it's going to be a problem.
It's just fear mongering, maybe they are like 10% less productive every decade-group after 60 on average, but it's hard to tell considering people leave the work force at 65. I'd wager that they are more productive on average than 20-30 year olds unless they have dementia.

Having an older population is only a problem if want unskilled labor to remain cheap relative to it's social value. The whole world has seen from America that relying on an immigrant underclass creates too many negative externalities for the price saved, I doubt Japan will copy this plan, they will just bite the bullet, pay more, and then act surprised when NEETs decide to work.

I don't see many of my 40-ish age who live healthy enough by exercising, going to work by bike or walking instead of car, so they can still be active, let alone productive when they enter retirement age.
I'm not sure I follow your comment. It's possible that AI will change the idea of who can be productive, just as the internet has changed the idea of who can be productive (people with limited mobility, for example).
Oh the productivity fallacy. AI making your job easier and saving you an hour a day doesn't mean that you'll spend this hour to do sport or even be able to use that hour as you please. We have cars (after trains, bicycles and horses) to get faster from A to B but at the same time the commute to work has grown. Many machines have been invented over the last millennia, yet we use this gain in productivity not to have more leisure time but to enforce consumerism onto the workers.
The problem isn't that companies are "afraid of not growing", or governments are "afraid to cut spending", it's that they've already signed off on paying back loans over the span of decades and were expecting to be able to pay off those loans with the value created by a growing population.

It's less about fear and more about economic realities.

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Western governments hardly operate on a shoestring budget, rather they've spent generations spending profligately with the assumption that massive sustained economic growth would bail them out without having to make any hard tradeoffs. That strategy has worked out ok so far but it has always been a fragile one and we might be entering an era where it fails to work in many places.

The transition to much lower deficit spending certainly won't be popular and might go catastrophically poorly. I actually think there's a pretty good chance that things will go quite poorly, but there's no reason it has to be so.

Well, mainly the majority of wealth is being focused in the hands of a minority of private individuals and corporations which rather hamstrings the budget.
> there's no reason it has to be so.

Besides basic human nature.

What currency are the loans denominated in?

If they are looking at a large aged population (lots of retirement savings) and lots of debt, inflation seems like an obvious solution, right? People not working will take a QoL hit due to their savings being worth less. But that is… what it is, I guess.

A lot of Japanese videogames seem to be set in a sort of pseudo-post-apocalyptic sort of setting (Final Fantasy comes to mind), where it isn’t like… mad max raider stuff, but it is clear that society once was larger and more developed, and now things are diminished with some remnants. I’m wonder if their population dynamics inspired that.
WWII is a much more likely inspiration.
When populations age and shrink, everything becomes more difficult.

Fewer working hands have to support more elderly retirees.

Less spending means less development, less maintenance, things break down and nobody can afford to fix them. Entire towns and villages slowly wither into nothing. It’s a long, slow, grinding, painful process with no other way around it.

And it’s easy to say “maybe that village should disappear” when it’s not your village.

It's not sustainable. Immigration would help but from what I've heard, it seems that Japan isn't very immigration positive overall.
The population more than halving in the next century causes issues for normal people with expenses of supporting aging population and maintaining infrastructure with an ever dwindling percent of the population working age. There are some benefits to lower populations but also significant practical drawbacks to working class people.
It's not about the amount of people but your population pyramid. If your population halves, expect a lot of pain. Especially for the elderly.
Especially for something like Social Security safety nets, which relies on a larger younger population paying into it. I'm not sure if Japan has an equivalent but I think they do.
every social safety net in every country needs to be funded somehow and a shrinking population means more debt to take on or higher taxes on existing workers. nothing is free.
Yeah that was kind of my point. That's why it's better if there are more younger people to contribute than elderly people. If there's less, then the burder is greater on individuals.
This is a great argument for individual retirement accounts rather than using the young to pay for the elderly. In the United States, if everyone's social security tax were put in an index fund, then everyone would be millionaires upon retirement.

There are solutions other than pleading with people to have more kids.

While I'm skeptical of the current state of Social Security, this doesn't quite work. The dollars in your account are useful only to the extent that there is stuff being produced that you can buy with them. If your population is mostly retired people, there's not going to be much stuff and prices will be bid up rapidly. So great, there's $10 million in your private account, unfortunately your home nurse costs $2 million a year.
I think you also generally need an exponentially increasing supply of working people in order for the economy to grow exponentially.
The idea behind OASDI (Old Age, Survivors, and Disability Insurance), more commonly known as Social Security, is not that you retire a millionaire.

It's the US government saying "since we are a wealthy nation, we will not let you spend your elderly years destitute."

That's it. That's literally all it is. It was meant to keep grandpa from being a burden on his family when he was too old to work, which in the 1930s meant when you were too old to do actual physical labor.

Since then the American public has seen it as a nice little bonus they get for living past 65 and has started stealing from younger generations in the form of sovereign debt in order to maintain that instead of treating it like the insurance policy it actually is.

==Since then the American public has seen it as a nice little bonus they get for living past 65 and has started stealing from younger generations in the form of sovereign debt in order to maintain that instead of treating it like the insurance policy it actually is.==

Social Security has it's own funding stream, a tax on wages earned. It does not add to the deficit or increase borrowing. If the funding dries up, the benefits are reduced. This is the Social Security cliff we hear about all the time.

But there's only so many dollars you can pull from a wage earned. A dollar pulled for OASDI is a dollar that can't be pulled for anything else, and the person earning said dollar will express dissatisfaction at the ballot box if you try to make up for that by taking another dollar.

A retirement bonus (which is what OASDI is for millions of retired Americans) costs more than a retirement insurance plan, because one gets drawn from by everyone, while the other can simply be denied if it isn't strictly necessary for the person trying to collect the benefit.

A more expensive program requires more tax revenue to administer, revenue that could be used on anything else. Since we haven't had a real national discussion about federal taxes in 30+ years in the US, we now take the spending that would be funded with the tax revenues that could be freed up by a less-expensive implementation of retirement insurance - one that's treated as actual insurance - and instead fund it with deficit spending.

==A more expensive program requires more tax revenue to administer, revenue that could be used on anything else.==

More complexity is what makes programs more expensive to administer, not size. You are suggesting adding significant complexity (actual insurance) to what is currently a relatively simple program.

There are lots of things that make it more complex. For example, actual insurance requires you to continue paying in each year to get a benefit. Currently, I can take a year off from working and it has minimal impact on my SSI benefits (as SSI just takes and average index of your 35 highest earning years).

Numbers in a database, whether they are in the millions or billions or trillions, don’t mean anything unless there are sufficient things/services to buy.
In the end, it is a matter of the amount of labor done by the future generation to support the previous one, vs the amount they do for themselves, right? I mean, we can account for it however we want, but if every elderly person was a millionaire, I guess we’d just have… very high demand for the types of doctors that serve the elderly.

The money doesn’t take care of people, people paid by the money do.

I do already put money into a 401k. I will likely be a millionaire before retirement, assuming no major catastrophes and steady employment in jobs that pay at a similar level (adjusted for inflation) before then.

I don't know if the same would be true for most people, though (I make significantly more than the average household income -- although probably less than a lot of people here because I'm not making Silicon Valley money -- and I don't have children).

It's an interesting idea worth exploring, but I'm not sure if just switching social security money to retirement accounts would be sufficient.

Administration and making sure people don't dig into them before retirement would potentially be very expensive too (although to be fair, I'm sure Social Security administration costs are very high also).

Are you aware of any studies that analyze such a solution? I imagine there must be something out there.

It's not great if it's 15 million supporting 35 million children, elderly and sick.
Here's a case where robotics and other innovations can help out.
A diaper changing robot would take care of both ends of the spectrum, young and old.
Changing baby diapers everyday for a year and knowing the process and at the same time looking at the video of state of the art robot moving parts between shelves I'm pretty sure that this solution is in a Sci-Fi (or Sci-Fi-horror) realm for a long long time.
What percentage of the 50 million will be old people?
40.4%
I think this is an overall good move, and very much support it, but many countries with better work-life balance and robust support for new parents still see declining birth rates....I can't help but think that a decline in fertility rates is as much about values -- what the point of life itself is, and how much it should be bound up in what we call the family -- as it is about the material conditions surrounding the act of child-rearing.
We'd totally be OK with "mistakenly" improving work/like balance and then earnestly try to find other solutions to the birth rate problem.

Otherwise I don't think there's a single unique solution. No having a miserable life is probably a good firth step that enables more advanced and varied measures.

I don’t necessarily disagree with you that values are more impactful, but personally I think it’s very difficult/nearly impossible to intentionally steer a culture’s values. Do you think there is anything procedural/structural that could be impactful for declining birth rates?
This focuses on fertility, but the bigger deal here is it creates jobs. Because when you reduce the availability of labor you create more jobs and spur the economy. Not only will more people have jobs, but they will have more time to spend money. So this is potentially a win for the local economy.
If they’re just reshuffling the existing work to a larger pool of people, do you really improve the economy? If anything I’d expect efficiency to decrease?
This is a variant of the broken window fallacy. Paying more in labor for the same amount of output is not good for the economy.
This isn't destroying anything so I'm not sure why you say this has anything to do with the broken window fallacy or why this could be bad for the economy.

Since there is confusion here, I'll pose this as a different thought experiment to make my points more clear: If it isn't good for the economy to reduce the average hours per worker then does that mean it is good for the economy to increase them? If we reduce the free-time of people then they will have even less time to spend their money and consume goods. Arguably they would also have less incentive to care about free-time activities that they can only, at best, sample.

The basic question I am raising is why is 5 days of 8 hours magically the right number. I'd argue that the more free time people have the more chance to consume they have. We balance that with the need to produce though. So an optimum point is actually driven by efficiency. The more efficient we are the more we should be diverting to free-time in order to drive more demand for the the. efficient goods we are producing. In a world where we are infinitely efficient then 100% of time should be spent in free-time in order to consume the most goods produced by that infinite efficiency. We aren't there yet so we still need to balance production against free-time but we are more efficient than we were 20 years ago so we should be finding ways to give back free-time to drive up demand.

Breaking windows also creates jobs.

(It’s a fallacy, but I’m too lazy to face the criticism if I explain it in full. In summary, please inform yourself on why both breaking windows and working less don’t create jobs).

So… five days?

Maybe government work is different from private industry work, but the folks at my company worked six days a week, with Saturday being a “half day” (only 8 hours). However, Saturday wasn’t an “official” office day, so casual attire was allowed, and the A/C was often turned off.

I hated going in on Saturdays.

>Many sociologists attribute the ever-plunging birth rates to Japan’s unforgiving work culture and rising costs of living.

It still seems like an incredibly odd argument to me given that the birth rate is only marginally lower than in the most generous, least working European nations. Hungary spent 5%(!) of its GDP on direct family support and it did very little (raised the birth rate by 0.15 give or take).

I wonder when people will just acknowledge that most of the secular decline of 1-2 children is simply down to personal choice, family planning, education and financial freedom. (and adjust economic policies accordingly)

The policies that make schooling and childcare free in Japan are very nice.

The problem is that it doesn’t move the needle. At least in Tokyo it’s more or less impossible to not have two working parents and own a house. Outside of Tokyo, you might own a house, but there’s no jobs and everyone around you is 60+

> adjust economic policies accordingly

What do you have in mind? My understanding is that this is not something there is much of an economic solution for short of canceling benefits (pensions / medical care)

Pension reform is unpopular but will need to happen in developed economies at some point or otherwise the youth that remains will completely crash out. One positive of the population pyramid is that the small next generations stand to inherit quite a lot softening it to some extent. But it's necessary.

Not enough discussed is also how much potential for labour saving tech there is. The most 20 common jobs almost haven't changed in decades. Retail, transport, clerks, back office, admin, even without magic "AI" solutions, if we wanted to we could design work around drastically cutting labour already. It's actually one benefit of the demographics, a lot of automation isn't happening because manual labour is cheap in a lot of places, so there's potential for growth even.

Immigration solves the issue entirely. Maybe not perpetually, but for the foreseeable future.
its got to help, but the main thing Japan needs to do is de-Toykoify the country. Urban density is probably the main causes for decline in fertility, and Tokyo is the worst example globally of runaway urban agglomeration.
People choose to live in Tokyo. They tried to give a buttloads of incentives to move to the countryside, but few take them, because… city life is just easier, more convenient and more fun. But I still agree, it might affect it in a roundabout way.

When you live in a city, you have more opportunities to do anything else other than having children. Also, Japan’s fertility rate isn’t that much lower than Canadas. They just got to the problem earlier than anyone else, so trying to resolve it with any possible means. The biggest problem still continues though — there’s no real reason or incentive to have more than 2 children, other than “for the good of the society”. And women are less likely to sacrifice bare minimum of 6 years of their lives to give birth to 3 children. Especially when they can do… literally anything else.

Every educated girl friend of mine thinks exactly the same way as well. Some had a child or two, but more than that it’s just a burden to the couple. I’m obviously simplifying things, and once the third child is born, they’re loved and etc. But it’s going to be a very hard sell for anyone.

Depopulation resulted in an oversupply of nine million housing vacancies outside the cities. Tokyo pays people a million yen per child to move out of the city. It looks like the population plateaued about 10 years ago and is trending down slightly. https://www.macrotrends.net/global-metrics/cities/21671/toky...
We're firmly in the "4 days but no change to pay" honeymoon phase.

Do people really think new 4 day roles, if it becomes the norm, will be budgeted same as 5 days? No chance. Have you ever met the upper class types who run the majority of companies...

This is partial redundancy for everyone whitewashed as caring for your employees. It's just not apparent yet

And compressed hours? Employees and employers just lying to themselves as it enables what both sides want

How does this even work in Japan after this change.

There's so many stories of corporate overwork.

Does the entire country just desperately want to work for the government?

I guess only Nixon could go to China?

When the US government adopts an employment policy private companies usually follow. Either because they do business with the government and have to comply, or it affects so many people there's a shift in norms.

UBI in the 2010s, 4 10s in the late 2000s. These things never stick. 5 8s is a great compromise between employers and employees. Every time someone tries something different they decide they don't like it, either the employer or the employee.

My employer hired me for 4 tens. I felt like a zombie during the week. I'd much rather have a few extra hours every day than a Friday to myself, especially since I need to go into the office on Friday's occasional anyways. I moved back to 5 8s.

The problem is that so many people being paid for 5x8 are actually working 5x9 or 5x10.

At least for myself, I was raised with the notion that working harder would be recognised and eventually rewarded. That has not turned out to be the case, so I am seeking a rebalance.

The argument against is, 5 day work week only started ~100 years ago. Growing up, I thought, as humanity we would automate as much as we can, and lower the work week as well. Didn’t think people will consider that as “failure or laziness”.

The problem is, you can’t let the competitive market to make it happen, as your competition will eat you. The best thing you get is talent retention. But not the shareholder value or the products that you might be manufacturing.

To me it just sounds like you’re working too hard. I’d much rather have 4 10s because I’m not working the full day any way.
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Im not really understand that preasure for this. Imo its much more sane to reduce working day from 8 hours to 6 hours.. You then use 12 hrs day shifts and use 2x6 or either 4x6 only for critical stuff like medical, some specialized industries, etc.. Mon-Fri and weekend free sound just about good fit. Remember that you can always take a day off as well.

Is scary that big cities never sleeps. People moan about depression, about lack of good sleep, wellbeing. Well, you created shitty environment for yourself...

I hope this is successful but have a feeling that it's going to end up like Premium Friday. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Premium_Friday Starts with big fanfare, supported by businesses, until focus drifts elsewhere and it quietly disappears.
Would schools and childcare providers also have 4-day workweeks? I really appreciate that I have 5 days of childcare now, as I find it exhausting to be 24/7 parenting two lil kids for two days straight (the weekends). If the norm was 4-day workweeks, I would pay my nanny overtime for Fridays. And then yes, maybe I'd get chores done on Friday! Currently, chores just don't get done ever. :D
" It separately announced another policy that will allow parents with children in grades one to three in elementary schools to trade off a bit of their salary for the option to clock out early."

This is really nice, this was the option that I wanted for my first kid. I would want this from the day they were born though, not just grades 1-3. It helps with breastfeeding scheduling.

What about the nanny wanting a 4 day work week, and what if they have children of their own?
Indeed! My nanny does have kids of her own. So I would either pay her overtime or I would find additional childcare for the 5th day.

I'm just pointing this out because I hear "4 day workweek" talked about a lot, but it's never clear to me if folks mean that everyone is getting those 4 days, including childcare providers or teachers, and if that's actually what folks want. People in this thread talk about getting chores done, but I'm not getting any chores done if I'm taking care of my lil kids, I'm just getting an even messier house. :D

I don't think it will boost the fertility rate in any significant way. I think the only way to really make a dent in low fertility rates is to incentivize mothers to stay at home and men to work full-time at least for the first five years of a child's life. I know people disagree with this, but it's worth considering if the declining birth rates are a major concern for the State.
A better policy would be to incentivize any parent to stay home for the first few years. Restricting it to mothers would only reduce the appeal of the policy and result in fewer takers, so why default to a more restrictive approach?
I'm curious if you have tried taking care of a young child 24/7, it is exhausting work. Some mothers are able to do it, but I find it really helps to be able to alternate between childcare and work, to give me a break.

I do think that remote work is great for mothers though, as it makes pumping/nursing more doable, whether we are working or not.

Perhaps the government can provide more subsidies for quality childcare.

Just get divorced and only spend a few days per week with your kid. Honestly, it's pretty good.
Shorter hours for less pay feels like a trap for salaried workers, unless your duties are also very formally lessened. I know people who have been granted similar schedules, but their managers simply expected them to get the same amount of work done, but in less time, for less pay.
I agree. If I made 20% less money and worked 20% less at my main job, I would still need to make up for that 20% of my income. That could be a difficult position to be in.
As much as I enjoy the concept, it’s already nearly impossible to get any goverment work done in Japan without taking a day off yourself. Everything government is open 9 to 5 and no more.

It’d be more exciting if this was basically anywhere else, but I guess we have to start somewhere.

Hopefully the workers don't all take off the same day and the company backfills the hours with new 4 days/week workers.
Hope. Global diversity is collapsing in all the wrong ways. Hopefully they can repopulate their haplogroups and grow representation.

Next we need to tackle over growth in other countries.

Is this the largest test/rollout of a 4 day work week ever?
The pleasure of sexual activity is not strongly linked to pregnancy. This kind of human intervention was unexpected in the evolution of nature.
Better: work with families to alternate remote days so one parent stays home with the kids and no need for childcare service
Do you really think that being remote is "staying home with the kids"? You're physically in the same building as them, but either you're not really working, or your kids don't actually need an adult to be there because they are grown up anyway, so no childcare is needed because they go to school.
Many jobs might be in-person especially in Japan
To me it seems (I'm not very serious, it just seems) the only real reason against 4-day workweeks everywhere are alcoholics. I knew too many people who woold spend whatever free time they get drinking booze, this way harming the society. We probably need a study on how numerous these are, also compared to those who would use extra spare time for any sort of good (including pure resting, education, friends/family etc).
Ridiculous, should we avoid vacations altogether as someone might end up drinking too much? Is that the way we decide how to set our society?

Alcoholism is a different problem from workaholism.

Too little too late. It may have an impact on the next generation, in 10-20 years, if at all.

Also, for government employees only...

The best time to plant a tree, and all…

Surely your argument isn’t, “at this point, why bother to do anything?”

> Surely your argument isn’t, “at this point, why bother to do anything?”

Surely if the effort exceeds the value of the outcome, then it shouldn't be done?

You haven't made an argument for that point at all
I haven't made an argument against it either. I merely estimated the realistic impact.
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Guys if this is happening in Tokyo of all places, no one else has any excuse.
raising a kid to 18 costs how much?

stopping a career and foregoing 18 years of promotions cost how much?

governments are just mucking about with the garnishings and ignoring the meat of the matter.

but then maybe they cant afford it, either. hah.

This should only be offered to families with children.
The idea of working 5 days a week began when an extra day of working meant you could manufacture an extra 100 cars, workload in the Tokyo government is not going to suffer much output at all if any by going to working 4 days a week
Sounds like Tokyo has too many government employees.
OK, but are they going to take that time off?

I mean technically they have 5 day work weeks now, but Japanese "salarymen" are notorious for working 80 hours weeks. (Though maybe this isn't the case for government workers)

Just getting people down to working 40 hours / week would be a huge improvement in QOL.

so public services will be even less accessible to the rest of the people?
Governments destroyed the notion of family. Now they want kids. Nobody sees the contradiction?
How did the Japanese government destroy the notion of family?
Japan Times will surely be better than this drivel from CNN: https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2024/12/04/japan/society/t...
Surprisingly progressive policy.

I know this is mostly tangential, but I think that this should be the way humanity should benefit from technology. Better technology shouldn't just exist to make capitalists richer, but it should exist to make everyone richer. One of the most important ways you can be richer is to have more time.

For government employees only. That's why Japanese call these people tax thieves.
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Meh. Per some recent reports a significant fraction of government employees in the US already enjoys zero day work weeks, fully paid, and has enjoyed them for years.
for parents only?
I mean, let's get rid of hourly wage. Make things fair for everyone. Value-based pricing.
meanwhile in america: "you're taking time off work for a 1 week vacation this year? what are you, a commie?"
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Government employees need to work more, not less.
In the USA, make it zero days. Same amount of work would get done by the government, and people would realize what a waste it is.
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